Perhaps it's impossible to wear an identity without becoming what you pretend to be.

"I don't have to be your commander anymore, do I?" asked Ender. "I don't want to command anybody again."

"You don't have to command anybody," said Dink, "but you're always our commander."

Forget it, Mazer. I don't care if I pass your test, I don't care if I follow your rules. If you can cheat, so can I. I won't let you beat me unfairly - I'll beat you unfairly first.

Knowledge is just opinion that you trust enough to act upon.

I've lived too long with pain. I won't know who I am without it.

You're only so sure you're right because they're so sure you're wrong.

I’m right here. This is who I really am. I'm not pretending.

There's only one thing that will make them stop hating you.  And that's being so good at what you do that they can't ignore you.